The feeling of falling and being in love is one of the greatest feelings one could ever feel and experience.
You feel motivated, driven, and secure having someone in your corner to support and comfort you.
However, some of us may become confused when trying to figure out what it is that we are feeling exactly–Do I just like him/her a lot, or is this love?
According to science, your brain will be able to figure it out before you’re able to realize it.
Arthur Aron, a psychologist at State University of New York at Stony Brook says, “Intense passionate love uses the same system in the brain that gets activated when a person is addicted to drugs.”
Here are 12 signs that will let you know if you really are, in love.
1. You want your family and friends to be accepting of him/her
When you start seeing someone you really like, you’re going to want to bring him/her around your parents and close friends. Your social circle typically plays an important role in the success of a relationship. Of course, the opinion of friends and family probably won’t decide whether or not you continuing seeing him/her, it’s nice to know that they like and accept the person you’re spending your time with.
2. You’re happy when he/she is happy and sad when he/she is sad
You start to almost feel exactly how he/she is feeling whether it’s up or down. the person you like gets a promotion and s/he overjoyed when s/he tells you about it. You’re able to share his/her success and experience feelings of pride and positive emotions. Seeing him/her so happy just makes you melt inside.
3. You want to see him/her every SINGLE moment
It’s almost like one day away from him/her feels like a week. When he/she says goodbye to you after dinner, you’re already thinking about the next time you can see him/her which is hopefully soon after. The second he/she leaves for home, you’re already texting him/her to continue the topic you haven’t finished over dinner.
4. You want to know everything about him/her
You become so intrigued you can’t help but have a laundry list of questions for him/her. You want to get to know him/her under the surface. He/she may be a little emotionally guarded and has difficulty talking about his/her feelings, so you find yourself wanting to know why he/she is that way. As you learn more about the person you like and make him/her feels safe, you open the doors wide open to connect and bond on a much deeper level.
5. You don’t feel so great when he/she gets close with someone else
Seeing the person you like being friendly with someone of the opposite sex will have you feeling pretty uneasy. Over time you’ve become pretty close to him/her, and you don’t want to see him/her or someone else sending out flirtatious vibes. The little jealousy tells a lot. It means you don’t want to be just friends with the person.
6. What he/she does or says is special to you
Things that he/she says or does may seem insignificant to others, but they’re very significant to you. What they see as an imperfections, you see as unique qualities that you love about him/her.
7. You’re willing to do anything for him/her
The list of things you aren’t willing to do for the person may not even exist. You never think twice about doing anything for him/her to put a smile on his/her face. He/she may be craving his/her favorite food for lunch so you use yours to surprise him/her.
8. You’re more careful about what you say and do
You learn to be a little bit more sensitive around the person you like. You’re much more careful about what you say and do. You begin to understand that every action has a reaction. You think twice before talking because you don’t want to hurt his/her feeling or make him/her angry.
9. Your behavior is a bit out of control when you’re with him/her
A friend may tell a joke and you may be mildly humored by it. But if the person you like tells the same joke, you can’t help but laugh a little harder. Your emotions are magnified. He/she makes you feel good, and it sometimes comes out uncontrollably in your actions.
10. Your confidence level is boosted
He/she makes you feel like you’re on top of the world and vice versa. You go into work feeling like you can accomplish every task thrown your way. He/she makes you feel great about yourself. If your friends and co-workers have been saying you’re glowing lately, he/she is probably the reason why.
11. You can see a future with him/her
You’ll start to envision what your life would be like with him/her in the future. Dare I mention the thoughts that go through your head when he/she picks up a baby.
12. You have more drive to become a better you
You have always felt pretty secure and happy with yourself and all that you’ve accomplished. But somewhere along the way this person unknowingly sparked something inside of you to push and strive for more. For months you’ve been putting off getting into the gym and eating healthier, but now doing that doesn’t seem like such a chore anymore. You aspire to be better everyday, and he/she is the inspiration behind it.
You definitely know when you start liking someone. The tricky part is knowing when you’re in love with him/her. All in all, you know he/she is the one for you when he/she challenges you to be a better person every day, and you can’t imagine your life without him/her.