•A Birthdate Celebration Memoir for a Leader par Excellence
Basheer Luqman Olarewaju
Great relationships has been recognized as what encourage unmatched interdependence. Great relationships provide the sharp edges on which we can refine ourselves. They do not aim to break us or stretch us to snap beyond repair yet they uphold not to keep us in our comfort zone. We, each of us, are whole and enough on our own. The conquest for another ‘half’ is as fruitless and fruitful a journey as the kind Tinman looking to acquire a heart in OZ.
My first encounter with him, it was supposed to have been before then, I had a first-hand privilege to learn, unlearn and relearn what I couldn’t have access to in any four walls of classroom. I added to my learning that, “Navigating our growth and deep relational connections with an adopted positive mindset and embracing the challenges that arise, squarely places someone in an exponentially more advantageous position. If you can embrace and work through every challenge, rather than run, hide, or twist and distort yourself to avoid it, the amount you will expand emotionally, intellectually and spiritually is well worth the initial discomfort of exposing who you truly are and are becoming. This expansion only occurring if you are mindful and aware during the process. Versatility in that regard keeps one’s intentions light, shining and on course”.
I feel today marks and deliberate freedom vibrating in myself because I am consciously working toward and making room for emotional, intellectual and spiritual expansion because these things are sacred in the society and his versatility helps. He said, “We humans can be as rigid or fluid as we choose. And with fluidity, there is the ability to choose, the ability to rework, reshape, and resume with life and passion without being stunted by the combined fears and insecurities of ourselves, our significant others, and even strange strangers”.
Indeed, every individual is a unique set of ever-accumulating experiences, thoughts, ideas, contributions, talent, and passion. Yes, this is me calling you a precious giant snowflake. But don’t shoot me for sharing common sense. Consider that each person is also a unique set of perceptions, beliefs, stigmas, triggers, traumas, tragedies, and so on; with varying levels of experience with and expressions of empathy, compassion, aggression, pain, sadness, joy and so on. That sounds like a recipe for uniqueness to me.
At the end of the day, no two people are the same. Similarities are real but don’t fill the chasm. Even when we compare two people who seem exactly matched, there will inevitably be differences in how they each impact others and their environment — the more reason I found a rare breed with no greed in you.
I met You through a friend and brother, Olosasa Saheed with the premised feelings of I would meet a man who posses the intelligence and reason to look at oneself and the motivations behind all one’s expectations, requirements, and needs. Amazing! I found all these things to be more than valid points of meditation and catalytic of personal growth. It is a new, higher standard that I am holding for myself and others out of the deepest respect and love for all living kind.
Diving into instinctual and deep exploration of your identity over years ago has taught me a hell of a lot that I am Living to share. Your experience thus far has been nothing short of challenging, inspiring, motivating, intriguing, enlightening, frustrating, maddening, and rewarding. Over the last few years in and you have grown in multitudes, scooping up rubies and pearls along the way. One of which is Love Versatility. No wonder, I cherish your nobility, credibility, sanity, ruggedity, and versatility — Versatility, dictionary defined, is the state or quality of being able to adapt to many different functions or actions. To be flexible. To be multifaceted. To be multitalented.
You have shaped many purposeless individuals to be purposeful, impactful, productive and endearing. You have been badly bruised, crushed, squeezed by life but you remain undefeated, unrelenting and self-insuring that “one with God is a majority”.
I understand better with your nature that, versatility in the way we love ourselves and others seems like an unspoken necessity, a key ingredient to deep and healthy relationships, growth and self-actualization. Finding and protecting the integrity of your authentic self. Embracing the truths presented by a higher knowing rather than embracing denial for mild comforts or instant gratification. I don’t think the human race as a species can afford to keep Love and Versatility separate.
I pray for you that your loss shall be recompensated with unending blessings, peace of mind, sound health, opulent wealth and longevity of life span. May Allah in His Grace and Mercy beautify your life to achieve your goals and dreams. May your aspirations and source of inspiration never be revoked by the devils. Amen.
Happy Birthdate Celebration, sir